My Culture
My nationality is American, but my ethnicity and where my family is from is the Dominican Republic. All of my aunt's and uncle's, and my mom, were born and raised in the Dominican Republic. One of our most important values is the relationship between family. We get together for every little thing, including birthdays, dog's birthdays, every single holiday, celebrating deaths or even sometimes- just because. It is important to us and it is a deeply held standard because there are a lot of family's who do not have that closeness, that unity. I have a lot of friend's that when they tell me they aren't doing anything for their birthday or they aren't getting together with their family for Christmas, I look at them like they're crazy! Not getting together for these two occasion's, to me, is completely out of the norm. It's something that is considered to me to be "appropiate" behavior for those types of occasions and if you are not doing it then you aren't behaving as normal family. And that idea and belief that I have is an example of enthocentrism. I look at my friend's that don't get together with their family's like they're crazy because to me that is what is right and what you are suppose to do.
This is a picture of a church called St. Augustine, in Brooklyn, New York. My religion is Catholic and can correspond to both my American culture and my Dominican culture. Going to sunday mass at 10:30am on every Sunday is an example of a folkway, this is something that is common in my both cultures and has been molded into a habit; something that is just a part of every Sunday. You wake up early, get dressed for church, go to church, enjoy your Sunday mass and then go out to brunch after. This is yet again, another norm.
I use to be a manager at a McDonald's in Brooklyn, and one time while I was closing I was taking the order a man and i got all of his food and i told him his total, which was around $8. He handed me a $20 dollar bill and he put the money in my hand. The way he handed it to me was weird as well. Usually people place money into your hand, but this guy held one end of the 20 while I grabbed the other. I did not think anything of it and I proceeded to count out his change. As I closed the register and was getting ready to pass his change to him, he said, "Can you do me a favor?". I said, "Umm sure?". He said, "Can you put the change down on the counter?" I must have looked very confused because after that he said, "It's just my culture. I cannot touch any body part of a woman that is not my wife." I said, "Sure no problem", put his change down on the counter, gave him his food and wished him a good day. I had jus experienced a culture shock. I stood thinking about that man for a long while and until that point I had no clue that handling money and change can be considered part of your culture! I thought every one had to hand you money and change into your hands because that was what I considered to be respectable in my American culture. Now, I no longer work at McDonald's but I am a cashier at a Sephora, and a lot of people from overseas put their money on the counter top, and I hand them back their change on the counter top because I do not want to disrespect their culture. That man taught me a valuable lesson. 
The Toyota Prius Hybrid (or whatever it is called, I'm far from a car expert) is an example of cultural lag. People in American culture want to create a car that runs off solar energy and not gas so that we conserve the earth's natural gases. Now all though I agree with this idea, we aren't thinking about the bad effects that a hybrid itself can have on the earth. We invent things and then we aren't ready for their consequences because we don't anticipate them, we don't expect them. Driving a hybrid car that uses the sun for energy still won't stop texting and driving, or drinking and driving.
Prince Royce is a "latin pop" music singer who has a song called "Stand by me" and this song is sung in both English and Spanish. This is the perfect song that mixes both the languages of my two cultures and turns them into one. This is also an example of the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis. This can be considered a part of this hypothesis because there are lines of the song that when translated into english, mean something that doesn't mean the same in spanish and vise versa. For example, in the song he says "Stand by me". To say that in spanish you would say, "parate al lado de mi" or "apuyame". In this song though, he says "junto a mi", but when you translate "junto a mi" into english it means "together with me" or "along with or near me". So saying along or near me will change the behavior in which some one will actually either stand along you, or near you. And the same goes for spanish. The two ways of saying "stand by me" in spanish have two totally different meanings which will change the way one acts towards you and what you are asking them to do specifically.
I really enjoyed your photos. The fact that you explained values and norms through your own personal experience was interesting because of the connection you developed with the key terms. Your family values being together and spending time on important occasions or holidays. I completely agree as well. I love getting together with my family and definitely think it is a deeply held value by families that are tight knit. It was also interesting to see how you tied in the word norm by stating what was out of your norm. When you observe other family’s through friends or relationships there always is a difference between the way your own family runs and the way other families may lack some of the norms you would think a family would hold, such as getting together on important dates, because after all isn’t that what family is about? It’s about being and spending time together. The other point you made in your blog that stood out to me was your experience with culture shock. When you work somewhere like Mcdonald’s you’re bound to run into different types of people as customers. I would have been so shocked to if that man told me that. The fact that he cannot touch any other woman but his wife is so much a part of someone‘s culture that even I never took that into consideration. So many different people come to NYC and it was great that you took something from that man and learned to be more open minded about other people who may come to you at the register. Great job!
ReplyDeleteyes i completely agree that it is definitely about spending time together with your family and so when people tell me they don't do it, i'm like really? there are families that DON'T get together for every single holiday, including the made-up ones?!
Deleteas for the guy in McDonalds, I think the biggest thing I took away was the fact that I can no longer get mad when people place change on the counter top and not in my hand. I use to get really angry and irritated, but I learned that day that it isjust a part of their culture. Same way family unification is a part of mine!
Hi Jelenia,
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading your blog. One of the most interesting points you make is about the tattoos that you decided to get. I find it interesting because you believe it is accepted by American culture. I'm not completely sure however. I would have to think about it a little more. My first reaction would be to say that your parents response is not unusual and I believe there are still quite a lot of people in the United States who do not accept this as the norm. I could be wrong, though.